A few key takeaways from the book:
A constant attention on how kids are “feeling” or “thinking” is causing negative outcomes.
Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed.
We incessantly ask kids how they’re feeling, if they’re happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they’re fragile instead of resilient.
Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can’t do anything for themselves.
We (Gen X) were told to “suck it up” or “you’ll live” or “rub some dirt on it” all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is “bad parenting” because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children.
Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings.
You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy.